Do you know what is the best aphrodisiac?

Do you know what is the best aphrodisiac? Having a body you are happy with, but… what does this means?

Treating well your body, which means, having healthy habits. A lot of people around the world try to find the best aphrodisiac, but they don’t understand that sexuallity is not about a pill you take, neither about cinnamon, coffee or strawberries. Sexuallity is about how do you feel with yourself, how do you feel with the other(s) and about the state of your body. Let me explain this.

How do you feel with yourself? Do you like your body?

Nearly all of us we have insecurities about our body, we all have something we don’t like about our body. But there are things that we really dislike and they can end up make feel anxious and very sad, so we have to work in them. I invite you to think about yours (or maybe about the one you worked on it in order to feel better).

I encourage you that if there is something of your body, which is affecting to your sexuallity, to work on it. I’m not saying to change it, you don’t have always to change things, sometimes you only have to take another perspective about it.

For example, imagine you are a woman with a lot of body hair, usually, women has less body hair than men, but this is not always like that. You have many options, using wax every week, doing laser… but also thinking about this, are there men with women voices? Yes. Are there men with nearly no hair? Yes. Have you ever meet someone like you? With your sames tastes? No. Why? Because we all different, because there is not a man or a woman with all the qualities assigned to men and women.

Related with the mentioned above, if you have a partner/friend with benefits (or whatever) you can trust, speaking about your insecurities will be helpful. Sometimes we don’t realize that our sexual partner doesn’t mind things that maybe we thought he/she minds. Maybe you sexual partner doesn’t mind you are not depilated or if you have a few extra kilos. Also, speaking about it, can help him/her to help you to feel better with yourself, for example, going together to the gym, cooking healthy dishes together.

What is the state of your body?

I always tell this to my clients, sexual functioning is extremely related to our mental and physical health. So, if you are stressed, you are not eating well, not doing exercise, your sexuallity will notice it to you, and of course it will report it to you. Once you are sad, stress, you have high levels of sugar or cholesterol in your blood,  you sexuallity tells you “Hey dude, I think you have to solve other things because your survival goes first than fun, so let’s focus on that, text me once you are ok again”

So lets say the best “aphordisiacs” are:

1.       Eating healthy and doing sport regularlyà saying bye bye, to hormonal dysregulations and high levels of sugar and cholesterol among others.

2.       Working on the aspects that are make you feel insecure in sexual relations.