Shall we go to a sexologist/couple’s therapist?

Sometimes in our relationships problems appear, other times these problems appear in the sexual side, and both kinds of problems can appear together as well. Therapies have a moderate to high economical cost therefore, a lot of couples and individuals decide to find a solution for their sexual problems by themselves. When those problems are difficult ones it is likely they will not find a good solution. This failure makes the problem even worse (for the feeling of defeat). Normally this lack of success lies in the generality of the contents which appear in web pages, blogs or self-help books. Those contents are made for a “prototypical couple or person”, but they need to be used by a professional and adjusted them to the situation.

Every single therapy and treatment has a therapeutic component, the novelty component, when a person or a couple have done a therapy or a treatment before (even if they did it wrong) they will have less success if they do it again in the therapy context, so most possibly the professional will use an alternative therapy. As an example in other area, you have a big wound, it needs stitches, so you see a video tutorial on YouTube and you do them by yourself. Then you see the wound is worse and worse, so you go to the hospital and the doctor has to remove your stitches and also do new ones. On the other hand, from Psychology we know that novel stimuli (in this case a therapy/treatment) will elicite new behaviour, such as curiosity, motivation to know… so the best option would be going to a therapist.